Inculcating Desirable Behavior among Children in the Light of Islamic Perspective

Today aggression is a more common and threatening problem among children in our society. Aggression refers to behavior between members of the same species that is intended to cause pain or harm. Aggression takes a variety of forms among humans and can be physical, mental or verbal. The frequency of physical aggression in humans peaks at around 2 3 years of age. It then declines gradually on average. Behavior like aggression can be learned by watching and imitating the behavior of others. A considerable amount of evidence suggests that watching violence on television increases the likelihood of short-term aggression in children. Sometime parents oppress their children which may also lead aggression in children (Displaced aggression is really a form of oppression). A child comes into the world not only with good tendencies but with bad ones too. The education of a child should include some basic training on how to struggle against and overcome bad inclinations. Parents and other elder peoples play an important role in personality development of the child. The paper would also emphasize the parental discipline technique in developing desirable behavior from Islamic perspective. To develop desirable behavior in children through love affection and praise their children, this encourages them to behave well. Our prophet loves for his grand-children Al Hassan and Al Hussain was so great that he used to kiss them whenever he saw them , it shows that Islam also follow the same rule of love and affection from children to develop desirable behavior .Islam laid out guidelines over 1400 years ago that if you have to physically discipline any living soul, you may not hit the face , head or tender parts of the body , hit hard enough to leave a mark on the skin and only spank when you feel you may lose control . In Islam we have been instructed to have patience and be merciful to our children. Islam is the only religion who puts rules and regulations for every aspect of our lives which have greater psychological implications during the process of child development. The present paper is an attempt to highlight these issues.